Saturday, May 21, 2016

Negative Comments...how to deal with them.

I often openly talk about the good God does in my life and the places he has brought me from. 

Not all my days are painted with sunshine and gleaming lights - there are days that I struggle. 


My biggest struggle is overcoming those who want to hurt me or get pleasure from hurting me. 

I know I don't deserve the grace and love that God has given me - but he loves me unconditionally - so why can't you accept me and accept that I AM A CHRISTIAN also.  

This week as I receiving what should have been a warm congratulations - it ended with "I hope this one works for you" - how do you even respond to that???

I first stood in awe that someone who I have always admired would have the cold bitterness to say such horrible thing to me.

I then wanted to defend my relationship - wanted to brag how amazing he is.

Last, I wanted to remind this overly kind (insert sarcasm) what really happened in the past. 

Instead, I managed to say "oh I am not worried about that" and walked off. 

I read this today:

“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”  Ephesians 2:10 NLT

So to some my life might look like a failure, but I have to remind myself that those people are not my maker and most certainly not my GOD. 

They don't have the ability to love me unconditionally (even if they say they do), they don't have the ability to not judge me, and they can't see this great big plan God has planned for me. 

For those people that can't seem to bite their tongue or always want to take a jab at you - here is the simple answer.

Proverbs 15 

"A gentle answer turns away wrath,
 but a harsh word stirs up anger.

The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge,
 but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.

The eyes of the Lord are everywhere,
    keeping watch on the wicked and the good.

The soothing tongue is a tree of life,
but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.

A fool spurns a parent’s discipline,
but whoever heeds correction shows prudence.

The house of the righteous contains great treasure,
 but the income of the wicked brings ruin.

The lips of the wise spread knowledge,
    but the hearts of fools are not upright.

The Lord detests the sacrifice of the wicked,
 but the prayer of the upright pleases him.

The Lord detests the way of the wicked,
    but he loves those who pursue righteousness.

Stern discipline awaits anyone who leaves the path; 
the one who hates correction will die.

Death and Destruction[a] lie open before the Lord—
how much more do human hearts!

Mockers resent correction,
 so they avoid the wise.

A happy heart makes the face cheerful,
    but heartache crushes the spirit.

The discerning heart seeks knowledge,
    but the mouth of a fool feeds on folly.

All the days of the oppressed are wretched,
 but the cheerful heart has a continual feast.

Better a little with the fear of the Lord
    than great wealth with turmoil.

Better a small serving of vegetables with love
 than a fattened calf with hatred.

A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict,
 but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.

The way of the sluggard is blocked with thorns,
    but the path of the upright is a highway.

A wise son brings joy to his father,
    but a foolish man despises his mother.

Folly brings joy to one who has no sense,
    but whoever has understanding keeps a straight course.

Plans fail for lack of counsel,
 but with many advisers they succeed.

A person finds joy in giving an apt reply—
    and how good is a timely word!

The path of life leads upward for the prudent
    to keep them from going down to the realm of the dead.

The Lord tears down the house of the proud,
    but he sets the widow’s boundary stones in place.

The Lord detests the thoughts of the wicked,
 but gracious words are pure in his sight.

The greedy bring ruin to their households,
 but the one who hates bribes will live.

The heart of the righteous weighs its answers,
 but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.

The Lord is far from the wicked,
 but he hears the prayer of the righteous.

Light in a messenger’s eyes brings joy to the heart,
 and good news gives health to the bones.

Whoever heeds life-giving correction
    will be at home among the wise.

Those who disregard discipline despise themselves,
    but the one who heeds correction gains understanding.

Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the Lord,
    and humility comes before honor."


I have to remind myself of that often!  

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