Sunday, March 22, 2020

Share Your Church, God’s Got This

This morning over breakfast, inspired by our conversation with our neighbor Brandi, PaPa Tom and I discussed there will be more church on Facebook than there was on the channel 27 with the 700 Club.

In the midst of this, there are GREAT things happening through the church.  Prior to today, on Sunday mornings, the church we attend like many others was only seen or heard mostly by those sitting in the pews.  

Today, churches all across our nation will be or has been heard by millions from all over the world. The church has stepped outside of the doors and is preaching the message of God’s Love in this time of crisis.  

I encourage you if your church has an online service today, please share it.  Reserve yourself from posting any news articles, any meme’s, anything not family related or Jesus related and flood Facebook with God’s Love.  

Here is a list of a couple of our favorites that we know are online:  

First Baptist Church of Marble Hill, MO’s Pastor Andrew Green:

Cape First of Marble Hill:

Remember tonight, 8pm, set an alarm, and LET’S PRAY!   

Tuesday, March 17, 2020

FMLA Policy, Senator Roy Blunt’s Response

Somewhere around February 19, 2020 (a long time before the coronademic)- I sent a letter to Senator Roy Blunt and Congressman Jason Smith regarding the current FMLA policy.  While I don’t have the exact letter, because I had to email them through their website (insert rolling eyes) and they never respond via social media, this is the gist of what I sent. 

So I am gonna talk about FMLA, I am probably gonna make some of you mad, and I want to state up front I am NOT complaining about being a caregiver.  I am talking about the FAILURE of a law that is meant to protect people - but forgot people. 

Last year when Trey’s parent both got sick, I dropped FMLA papers in at my employer, only to be denied as “not a covered family member relationship” - while it really didn’t put a burden on us, I just wanted to be protected in case there was a need.  

In June last year when Trey’s Dad came to live with us, I again filled out FMLA papers thinking that because he was in my home, there might be a category, but again denied as “not a covered family member relationship” - completely in shock because he lives in my home, I reached out multiple times to different HR folks to clarify if this was correct. Multiple times I was sent the reply see policy .....and the denial was correct. 

I recently sat down to write my department head a letter about how unfair this situation is, but stopped short after researching the federal FMLA policy - to learn that the “in-law” relationship is not covered relationship either.  So I stopped writing.  

So here is who the FMLA policy covers; spouse, children (biological, adopted, foster), and parents. 

Now I know not everyone is caretaking for their in-laws, but I can name several friends of mine that are, some that work in the same office as me, some in the same situation of being the only family within hundreds of miles.  

So here is my “opinion” on this FMLA policy (and before I state my opinion, I am 100% supportive of Foster parents) - if the policy covers foster children, why would it not cover and an elderly in-law living in your home?  Is that not similar to being a “foster” parent - do you not spend your days doing similar task, for person not directly related to you?  

I have come to conclusion that this law and laws like are set up to protect children(which I applaud) but not the elderly - when I talk about these struggles I am often met with “why don’t you put him in a home” - which I reply back, so we want to keep children out of group homes, but put our elderly in one? 

I am drafting my first letters to my State Reps and Senators; I may never see a change, but I will stand up for those in need.  

The FMLA entitles eligible employees of covered employers to take unpaid, job-protected leave for specified family and medical reasons with continuation of group health insurance coverage under the same terms and conditions as if the employee had not taken leave. Eligible employees are entitled to:
  • Twelve workweeks of leave in a 12-month period for:
    • the birth of a child and to care for the newborn child within one year of birth;
    • the placement with the employee of a child for adoption or foster care and to care for the newly placed child within one year of placement;
    • to care for the employee’s spouse, child, or parent who has a serious health condition;
    • a serious health condition that makes the employee unable to perform the essential functions of his or her job;
    • any qualifying exigency arising out of the fact that the employee’s spouse, son, daughter, or parent is a covered military member on “covered active duty;” or
  • Twenty-six workweeks of leave during a single 12-month period to care for a covered servicemember with a serious injury or illness if the eligible employee is the servicemember’s spouse, son, daughter, parent, or next of kin (military caregiver leave).”

Today nearly thirty days later I received a response from Roy Blunt , United States Senator (yes that’s how it was signed) and this was his response.

“Dear Mrs. Wiginton:

Thank you for contacting me regarding paid leave legislation.
Although laws such as the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) provide for job-protected leave in circumstances such as the birth of a child, adoption, or serious family health concerns, such laws do not mandate pay.

While I agree that employees should have the ability to take reasonable sick leave in the case of family emergencies, I have concerns that broad legislation to mandate paid leave could place an unnecessary mandate on businesses without regard for the particular needs of the individuals involved.  In its effort to improve the lives of working Americans, Congress should be careful not to damage businesses or stifle job creation.  A one-size-fits-all solution to a diverse range of businesses and individuals is the wrong approach.

I appreciate your thoughts and will keep them in mind as I work towards solutions that benefit both employers and employees.

Again, thank you for contacting me. I look forward to continuing our conversation on Facebook ( and Twitter ( about the important issues facing Missouri and the country. I also encourage you to visit my website ( to learn more about where I stand on the issues and sign-up for my e-newsletter.

Sincere regards, 

Roy Blunt 
United States Senator

Now if you READ my letter, I am not asking for pay, I am asking for protection.  While my employer has been amazing, there could be day that I need it, or there could be another family just trying to give their aging parents the best care. 

Tonight, of course I am not exactly happy with the response, so here is what I wrote back.  

Dear Senator Blunt, 

I am not asking for paid leave, I am confident that is NOT what I wrote, what I am asking for is protection that I wouldn’t get fired if my 84 year old father-in-law that LIVES with me, became ill and I needed to miss work - I am his main caregiver and we are his only family close by.  His other son is currently serving in the United States Military and stationed 16 hours away from us. 

You are correct “Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) provides for job-protected leave in circumstances such as the birth of a child, adoption, or serious family health concerns, such laws do not mandate pay“ but they do offer protection for a set period of time, under qualifying relationship.  I have researched the FMLA policy extensively. 

I could adopt or foster my father-in-law and be protected, but have no protection under the act currently because he is just my ailing father-in-law who spent years serving our communities. 

I appreciate your response, but I am confident you either did not understand my email or you just didn’t read it. 


Becky Wiginton, Registered Voter 

Friends I am sick to death of having to SCREAM at our elected officials to get their attention.  I don’t care what party they are, they have FORGOTTEN who they represent.  I am not asking for money, I am asking for consideration for those families like mine, who are trying to provide the best end of life care for their parents and in-laws, and still be a working citizen.  

Oh and to add, I like that he included his social media links, I believe I will use those to tag his pages in.   

Sunday, March 15, 2020

Could people in the US already had Covid-19?

Is it possible that people in the US already had Covid-19? So, I am not a huge conspiracy person, but I am beginning to question this theory, even though I have been told I am wrong. However, we just don’t know if it is possible.

The first Covid-19 case happened in November, according to media reports on unpublished Chinese government data. (work cited: We don’t have any way to verify that, because it is China and they kept much of this virus secret for a long time.

According to National Travel & Tourism Office 177,039 Chinese visitors (excluding Hong Kong) arrived in the United States in the month of December 2019. (Work Cited:

For about one month after the first known case there were one to five new cases reported each day, the report said, and by the 20th December 2019 there were 60 confirmed cases. (work cited: same article as above)

A report, in the South China Morning Post, said Chinese authorities had identified at least 266 people who contracted the virus last year and who came under medical surveillance, and the earliest case was 17 November – weeks before authorities announced the emergence of the new virus. (

The same article goes on to say, “Interviews with whistle-blowers from the medical community suggest Chinese doctors only realised they were dealing with a new disease in late December.”

Meanwhile approximately 177,039 traveled to the United States from China, as tourist - I would imagine the numbers are higher due to business travel, during the month of December 2019, this is only December numbers, travel continued through January and February, it was only halted recently.

My family and I traveled to Charleston, South Carolina on December 21st and spent 7 days touring the popular travel destination, encountering thousands of folks, from all over the world, several Asian tourists. We left South Carolina on December 28th and retuned to Missouri on December 29th. 

My daughter was diagnosed with a respiratory virus on January 11th - which was believed to be RSV. Exactly 14 days after we returned to Missouri. We were not tested for RSV as she is 16 and teenagers and adults don’t normally get RSV tested, at that time Covid-19 was not known much, so it would not have been something our doctor would have tested for. (Don’t you dare blame my doctor she is awesome)

On February 8, 2020, both PaPa Tom and I had a respiratory something that resembled my daughter’s symptoms previously. I was given an antibiotic shot, PaPa Tom was given antibiotics and continued steroid treatments, as he also had a UTI.

With my weakened immune system on February 28, 2020, I was diagnosed with Type A flu, which I tested positive for, but still had the heavy chest, continuous cough that lasted 2 weeks, and I eventually lost my voice from. Again Covid-19, was not believed to be in the US, so this was the best diagnosis, and I was positive for Type A, so it all made sense.

When questioning this week, I was told it was not possible, because Covid-19 was not it the states, but how do we know that? The CDC is saying there is little known about this virus, the Chinese did not release information for nearly 45 days after the first case, and we cannot be certain that one of the 177,039+ traveling to the US had not come in contact with virus or had it.

It was also said that if we would have had it PaPa Tom would have probably died, but again how do we know that? “The virus, which is now a pandemic, has infected at least 128,343 people across the world and killed 4,702. Of those who have contracted the virus since it began, 68,324 people have recovered.” (work cited: Were only 4702 of them over the age of 60? Has zero elderly recovered? We just don’t know, because of the lack of information from China in those first few weeks.

To back this question up, PaPa Tom has been and is on regular steroid breathing treatments, so would the treatments not have prevented the severeness of the virus? We just don’t know. There again is just not enough information.
I am not saying that I have had Covid-19, I am saying I had something similar to that, I was not tested for Covid-19(because medical professionals did not know to), so there is no way of knowing if we had it or not.

Here is a link explaining how fast it spreads:

Tuesday, July 30, 2019

Laughing through the Tears: Day 70

Seventy days ago my mother-in-law went to heaven.  Seventy Days!  That's all?  That many?
They say mom's hold the household together.  You think that's not true? Lose the main mom in the family and see what happens.....

My mother-in-law was my mother-in-law for 1116 days, but she was my husband's momma for 12,938 days - that meant she was head mom in our world. She was queen of the know-how and a

true saint when it came to the grandma department.

In the past 70 days I have reluctantly filled her shoes in many ways, but not without tears.  I have cried, I have cried a lot.  I stood in her closet last week looked at her shoes and cried.  I cried because I miss her, I cried because I don't know how to cook like her, I cried because I need her advice, and I cried because she just was who she was.  I then wiped my tears, put on a smile and walked to the other room to only laugh along with my kids and PaPa Tom (my husband's father).

My life, my perfectly well planned life, was turned upside down with new task, new meaning, and new adventures.   I am head mom.  I am the mom of the world. I am the main mom in their world.

I make meatloaf - not good, but I make meatloaf.   I cheer louder.  I balance two checkbooks.  I buy iceberg lettuce and real lettuce (the kind that has nutrients).  I just do for no other reason than that is what needs to be done.

I don't do without laughter.   We cry then we laugh.  We remember then we laugh.  We talk then we laugh.   We laugh because she would have laughed. She is probably laughing at us now!

Saturday, July 13, 2019

Dew Drop Inn, Bloomsdale, Missouri.

Hello Yummy food!  We made the drive to Bloomsdale, Missouri to try Dew Drop Inn.  We had heard good reviews, but never had time to stop and try it.  In honor of me getting olderish we made time!   

I would call this place an upscale Tony Keith kinda place - good for families, but a rustic wild side.  

I will say you can make a meal off the Mac n Cheese - holy smokes, I could have licked the bowl.  

PaPa Tom was pleased they had meatloaf as the special of the day, he loves meatloaf. 

I’m not so sure about the kid’s choice of dirty fries - chili in the summer?  They enjoyed them though!  

Check out Dew Drop Inn, Bloomsdale, Missouri - yes it is worth drive.  Tell our waitress Hannah hello, she was so kind!  

Saturday, July 6, 2019

Crab & Company, Wappapello Lake, Missouri 

This is our second trip to Crab & Company, Wappapello Lake, Missouri - and just as our first visit we were not disappointed.

The food is not what you expect in rural Missouri, instead what you would expect in a port town in the south. Yummy crab, calamari, (yes more than catfish), and shrimp - disclosure due to allergy I have never tasted their shrimp, but my family has.

Like the food, the hospitality is what you would expect in the south. Both times I have visited this establishment they did not know I was a blogger, I never told them I would review their establishment, yet my service was excellent - I prefer surprise visits as it gives me a real picture.

Crab & Company is perfect rather you have been out on the lake all day, family camping, or want a nice place to eat for a night out - it is an establishment for everyone.

Sunday, August 19, 2018

Parenting is Exhausting. End of Story.

Many years ago, okay not many, but at least fifteen years ago people would tell me with time it will get easier. She will sleep more, you will have a routine, and you will catch up on sleep.

Those people are liars! 

Fifteen years ago, I was young and I had energy, but then she was born and I never slept again.   I remember all the experienced moms telling me with time you will have a routine and you will catch up on that sleep you were missing. 

Last night I laid in bed and listened to all the chatter happening in the room below me.  I stared at my ceiling and recounted all those people that are LIARS.  Yesterday, I was up at 6 am for one of her "events" and my head finally found my pillow again around 11pm.  

Yes as infants you have to feed, water and change them all hours of the nights.  However, at teenage years you have to chase them, fund them, and they talk back at all hours of the night.  

So to you new moms out there, I will not lie to you.  You will never catch up on your sleep.  Ever!   The days will be long, the nights will be short, and if you ever think you will have money again - HAH!  Good Luck!  

****Disclosure "haters are gonna be haters, if you think that I am complaining about parenting, you are wrong and have landed on the wrong blog.  I am just being honest"