Wednesday, February 17, 2016

No Sex Before Marriage - and Answering Your Questions

Months ago I started talking about waiting until after marriage for sex - little did I know this would
bring more questions than criticism.  This "old fashion idea" has raised so much curiosity.

While at no point in my initial stand did I believe that this would become a testimony for God, but last night I realized that it has.  Over the past few months I have had some unusual questions, so here is the answers.

Why did you decide to wait for marriage to have sex? 

I would like to tell you that my decision to wait for marriage was because of my faith in God, however, it was more of a logical reason than backed up by scripture.

To answer the question "why did you decide to wait for marriage to have sex" starts with the question "why did my other relationships (marriage) fail" - the answer to the question is my previous relationship(s) were not founded on love they were founded on lust and sex.  They started out in the bedroom and were forced to grow into a relationship.

As I looked back over the years, I could pinpoint all the mistakes, where all the problems started and they all started from rushing into the bedroom too quickly.

So the decision to not have sex was founded on trial and error - I knew from my past mistakes that having sex too early was a recipe for disaster.

 Colossians 3:10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator

Do you want to have sex?   

Yes, I am still human and I still desire to have sex - I am not broken.

Do you ever feel tempted? 

UHHHHH DUH!  Have you seen Trey?  Of course temptation happens, in fact when that question was asked I thought back to a night that Trey and I were parked talking, one thing led to another and I found myself quoting Bible Verses as a defense mechanism against my own wants and desires - if you are wondering, it worked and gave us something to laugh about.

Do you think people judge your idea?  

Really?  You just asked me about my beliefs and you want to know if people judge my idea?  I know people think I am weird, they have told me that my idea is dumb and they would not date me if I wouldn't have sex.

What does he think about waiting? 

Trey respects my decision and actually took the stand for himself - we both look forward to our honeymoon - but are enjoying this time of getting know each other.  

Do you talk about sex with your kids?

We do not live in the 1920's - sex is everywhere - on our TV, on the radio, on the shelves at Walmart - I have NO CHOICE, but to discuss sex with my kids.  Yes, my kids know that we are not having sex until we are married - I pray that I lead by example and show my kids that you can be an individual and have your own beliefs no matter what the world is telling you.

 Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Do you live together? 

NO we do not live together - this lessens the temptation greatly, I suppose!

Have you spent the night together?  

Yes we have, we travel as a family all the time - it would inconvenient and expensive to rent separate lodging.  With our busy lives and crazy work schedules; the weekends we are typically together from Friday evening until I return to work on Sunday.

Do you mind talking about your decision to not have sex before marriage? 

No I do not, or I wouldn't talk about it on my blog.  I wish everyone could experience a true relationship - a relationship founded on love and built around God.   When someone ask me about my decision I see it has an opportunity to give my testimony and show them how God is working on me.






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